And left early.
Maybe I was at the wrong table. As a never married woman with no kids, I find it hard to generate interest in discussion about husbands, future husbands, in-laws, ex-in-laws, children, children with allergies, children who aren’t potty trained … Admittedly, this was the first meet for Reasonable Women, many of which hadn’t met in person before. I felt like an alien in the group trying to get a handle on how women communicate, myself. Evidently they bond by sharing personal history, each woman going on the assumption that the others will think her life anecdotes are as interesting as she believes they are. It was a lot like a coffee klatch but with beer and martinis.
Don’t take that to mean I’m insulting them in any way. It’s just that that kind of communication is a stumbling block for me. I’ve never felt like my life experiences ought to interest people and I’ve never been one to be very obviously interested in the lives of others. Maybe somewhere along the line I got it into my head that it’s too nosy to encourage conversation like that so I never learned how to successfully drive a conversation in that direction. For the record, I don’t read gossips magazines or memoirs either.
Conversations rolled around to other things sometimes, of course. One of them uses zen tarot cards of some kind (Osho cards maybe?) and insists they really work as meditation guides. “Before this camp I’d be teaching at, I got the card ‘stress’ and after the camp I got the card ‘exhaustion’!” Yes, that’s nice and scientifically valid. It turned out a few of us had superstitious tarot histories, which was of interest to me as I’ve hung onto my own Arthurian Legend cards even though I long quit using them for anything. I could have mentioned my attempts at witchcraft in university, too, but I forgot about that until now.
The allergy chat triggered other health topics that might be worth reading up on. One made the claim that vegan diets cure diabetes and I doubt that’s likely. There’s evidence that eating vegan can reduce the need for injections, but that just means the vegan diet is a different (possibly better) way to manage the disease. If they were to quit eating vegan, all the problems associated with their diabetes would start up again, I expect.
It was also said that mouse viruses have been known to cause breast cancer. That was a new one to me so I looked it up this morning. Microbes do cause some kinds of cancer, which is why people are encouraged to get the vaccines for Hepatitis B and HPV if they want to avoid the liver and cervical kinds. The mouse mammary tumor virus could be responsible for up to 40% of breast cancer cases.
They also talked about education, teaching English overseas, the value of SIAST over university but university getting more of the money anyway, Catholic schools having more money for high tech gadgets than public schools, and how they all walked away from Christianity.
There were a dozen of us last night and whenever we meet again I think I’ll try sitting with the other half of the group to see what sort of conversations they’ll get into. Hopefully it’ll be something I know something about so I can actually feel like I’m contributing.