I love silly persecution stories. This one I find via World Net Daily. Apparently a man was ejected from his job with Brookstone for telling a gay co-worker how wrong it is to be gay.
Peter Vadala was fired, and the company says he violated a tolerance policy. But Vadala reports his dismissal came because he expressed his Christian view of homosexuality after a female manager made repeated references, as she approached him four times during work hours, to her plans to marry her lesbian partner.
“At the start of the day, she told me she was getting married. I told her ‘Congratulations,’ and asked, ‘Where’s he taking you on your honeymoon?’” Vadala said.
“She replied that her partner was a ‘she,’” he continued, “So I immediately tried to change the subject.
“I think she knew I was uncomfortable talking about it,” he continued. “But, she brought it up to me three more times during the day.
Girls tend to do that when they’re getting married, so I gather. Rather than try to change the subject, Vadala could have asked her about the honeymoon destination, if it was going to be a large service or elopement, and be cordial and politely interested for a few moments before wandering off. What did he do instead?
“After the fourth time she told me about her plan to marry her partner, I told her, ‘I think homosexuality is bad stuff,’” Vadala said.
“That’s what I said. I wasn’t rude about it and I didn’t act disrespectfully to her,” he said. “All the woman said to me as she left the store was, ‘Human Resources buddy. You keep your opinions to yourself!’”
As well he should have, whether this is precisely how the woman responded or not. His opinion of her lifestyle doesn’t need mentioning while on the job. He and his homophobic cronies can gather at the local brew pub after work to rail against the hell society is becoming instead.
Vadala said when he was hired he went through the company’s training program, including a requirement to watch a video.
“In the video, there was a homosexual man who said he overheard two workers talking. One man in the outsourced video tells the other, ‘If a homosexual man hits on me, he better watch out.’
“The homosexual man in the video said he was offended, but I’m not allowed to be offended by a homosexual … I was told that since homosexual marriage is supposedly legal in Massachusetts, that I was wrong for being offended,” Vadala said.
He’s not wrong for being offended. He’s an ass for being offended, but he’s not “wrong” per se. His co-worker has no control over what’ll offend this guy. Purple socks worn with khakis might offend this guy. Who knows? That said, there’s a difference between a lesbian cooing over wedding plans and him possibly getting hit on by a gay guy. Being offended isn’t a nice response in that case either, which was the point of the video, probably. Not just homophobia, but the possibility of violent reaction toward homosexuals. Nobody deserves to be assaulted because of their sexual preferences.
A Brookstone human resources staffer called a few days after the incident and Vadala said he told the caller he wanted to resolve the matter.
“I spoke to (the human resources staff member) and I wanted to resolve it. I said that for his sake, the matter needed be resolved because this manager will be around customers who, chances are, will be offended by the types of things she is saying,” Vadala said
But during the course of the conversation Vadala said it became clear the call wasn’t about resolving the issue.
Maybe she shouldn’t be shouting all over the store about her upcoming wedding, but it’s what excited women do. She’s happy. If customers have a problem when they realize they’re in the vicinity of a “lesbo” that’s their problem, not hers. And if they want to take it up with management, hahaa, joke’s on them. She’s management. Obviously Human Resources has no issue with her. He should have offered to apologize to her, not tell HR that she should watch her mouth around customers. Numbskull. Cabbage head. Doofus.
The rest becomes a bit of He Said/She Said stuff with Vadala claiming the HR department’s putting words in his mouth and he’s claiming he’s been wrongfully dismissed.
McGrath refused WND’s request to comment on the dispute. Instead she suggested Brookstone’s legal department be contacted. That department did not respond.
When contacted about the firing, store manager Katelyn Woodard said, “You need to speak to human resources about this and if you call this number again, I’ll file harassment charges.”
Vadala said it’s clear to him he was fired for his faith.
“Absolutely,” he confirmed.
Because his faith lets him wander around believing it’s okay to insult gays and lesbians by claiming their lifestyles are “wrong” no matter what the situation. Had he just kept his mouth shut, he’d still have a job. If he didn’t like having a gay manager, he could have perhaps requested shifts where he wouldn’t see her, or switch locations, or switch jobs entirely. He’s the one who chose to make a value judgment during work hours about how she leads her life, and HR was right to give him the boot since it appears he never had any intention of apologizing or admitting to any wrongdoing. As far as he’s concerned, he did nothing wrong.
Ass.
On a lighter note, I was amused to discover Sir Ian McKellen’s delightful solution to bibles in hotel rooms – rip out any offensive pages that include verses like Leviticus 18:22. It never would have occurred to me to do that. I’d never willingly deface a book, no matter what trash is written in it.
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edit Nov. 7 2009: Just noticed I had the verse wrong. I had 18:12 in there before. Ah well, they’re both awful and both in the same chapter so probably both on the same page. It all works out in the end.




i had a coworker that talked about his christianity every opportunity he could.
he knew i was gay, and one day told me it was a lifestyle he did not approve of. funny thing, he was having a sexual relationship with another coworker outside of marriage.
when i brought up his “sin” he called me a faggot and threatened to beat me up.
he got fired. hahaha
Hypocrisy is always a delight to hear about.
Wow, this is a great piece, thanks for sharing it.
I do love the hypocrisy of most of them who spout off and share their religious judgments on others though.,
Telling gays they are sinning, yet they are having an affair outside of marriage, telling someone that they think doing any type of drug is a sin, yet they get totally plastered every weekend, a priest telling someone who only lives with their partner that it’s living in sin, yet they molest the alter boy after Sunday services.
Do as I say, not as I do.
It’s amusing to me.
Brookstone did have the right to fire him for what he said, it was wrong. He should have just politely said congrats, hope your honeymoon/wedding service/whatever, is enjoyable, and then got his ass back to work on the other side of the store or something, but calling homosexuality bad stuff, saying it like that, was within the realm of things NOT to say to a co-worker. haha
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Let me see if I got this right….It’s okay for her to talk about what she believes in by continually discussing her impending gay marriage. Because of his beliefs, he is rightfully offended. But when he finally stands up for what he believes in, she gets pissed and gets him fired! I thought we lived in America. We are all entitled to our own beliefs. He could have very easily gone to HR himself, to complain the nature of her conversation was offensive to him. Would she have gotten fired? I really don’t like people who think their sh*t don’t stink. He should not have lost his job. You comment “Had he just kept his mouth shut, he’d still have a job.” How about, had she kept her mouth shut. If anything, BOTH should have been disciplined. Brookstone should have disciplined her also! Or are they afraid of a lawsuit and negative blacklash from the gays and celebrites??
She doesn’t believe in gay. She IS gay. Nobody believes in heterosexuality. They just are or they aren’t. He is entitled to his beliefs. But his beliefs shouldn’t let him get away with stepping all over the rights of someone else to be who they are.
Yeah, he could have gone to HR first. Instead of opening his big mouth and judging her lifestyle, he could have told them she’s bragging about her marriage and it’s getting disruptive. He could have even claimed it was a bother to customers instead of displaying his dislike of what gays do so openly.
Maybe HR would have told him to suck it up and avoid her if he was bothered so much. Maybe she would have gotten a suggestion to keep her excitement out of her work. They wouldn’t have needed to bring his name into it or anything. They could have done it that way. But he didn’t do it that way.
I’ll agree, the woman could have just apologized for talking so much about it. And maybe she’s had enough of that gay bashing garbage over her lifetime and didn’t want to take it from employees that day. On some other day maybe she would have just shrugged it off. Maybe this was the wrong battle to pick.
Maybe Brookline did make the wrong move, but really – do they want to be known as a company that allows that level of disdain to slide? He didn’t have to like her lifestyle but he didn’t have to vocally complain about it either. Letting him stay on would send a message to future gay job seekers that gay bashing will be ignored if it happens while employed with them. That’s hardly a healthy workplace, nor good business.
Thanks for offering an alternative view of this issue. It did get a little one sided. Come back again some time.